Loyalty?

I have always been cynical with loyalty by a partner. This comes from personal experience and many, many from other people's experiences. I believe true loyalty only happens to approximatley 10% of the population.

The definition of loyalty differs for each person and for each couple though.

Some refers to sleeping around with other people other than your partner as not loyal, but going out with other girls/guys holding hands, hugging, kissing and what-so-ever, is not consider being disloyal, as long as sex is not involved. Some regard disloyal merely by going out one-to-one date with the opposite sex WITHOUT the partner's knowledge, even though nothing happens and as a pure friendly outing.

Loyalty is most challenging when a guy is rich/lure/distracted and when a girl is bore/unsatisfy physically, mentally or emotionally.

For all the girls out there, if you believe your partner is TRULY loyal to you - think twice.

You never know when your partner actually:

- Ask one of your gf out behind your back (Yeah, it happens!)

- Slept with one of your gf/any random girls because of lust or simply you do not attract him anymore or for the thrill

- Went out with other girls without your knowledge (Better you never know what actually happens)

I hear many partners say is about TRUST. But honestly speaking.... how many of you actually checked your partner without his/her knowledge and constantly worrying/panicking/suspecting? Do you consider this as TRUST if you have to checked on your partner but do not acknowlege by his/her words or do not even dare to confront or ask him/her directly?

Now and there the perfect, happy, TRUSTING couple appears in front of everybody/in gathering, but the truth is only known by these 2 people (or perhaps the other gf/bf/secret lover who is in the group? Haha).

























How to build loyalty then?

- Communication to build TRUST.

No doubt.... easier said than done. Regardless, 90% of my married girlfriends checked their husband with all kinds of tactics (One would be truly amazed and expect all detectives/spy/inspectors to be women for goodness sake!). Hey, guys don't lie, you check on your partners too!

- Build your own CONFIDENT/MARKET.

Let your partner be worried about you, instead of you worrying about your partner (if possible). If your body image is your issue, work on it. If your knowledge is your issue, work on it. If your looks is your issue, work on it. One have to love/respect oneself, before one could love/respect other and in return gain back love/respect from the other.

- Know his/her deal and draw limits/understanding.

There's no such thing as double standard in loyalty issue. If your partner wants you to practise their "law/T&C", they are suppose to practise what they preach. Do not just nod your head and give in to all their "commandments". It is about compromising and reaching an understanding. You can also voice out your limitations and what you think is best for each other.

How important is loyalty in a relationship? (Ponder and answer that yourself)






















I guess a bit of none harmful flirting and market confirmation is ok geh.... OR PERHAPS GOOD.

***It reminds me that "someone" have been happily announcing that "someone" receive call(s) to being asked out from out of the blue and panicking how to handle situations that may cause possible disloyalty or suspicious. "Someone" was asked out ALONE for NON-WORKING issues at NON-WORKING hours by ONE other who is not ugly-looking/body issue-challenged/intelligence restricted or etc (so said-lar). Even guys feel proud to have market. What do you expect from girls?***

One thing I learned, girls, laugh it off and be cool with it. It is definitely better to know than been hide from the truth. Chances are if he is willing to tell you, chances of cheating is lesser. But there are a lot of sly & cunning guys out there too. Beware!

One can see this from a different angle:

- Your man got market! Still desireable...

- He just dunno how much market you have only...... Wukakaka.....