Eyes wide open VS Eyes shut close; Contentment VS Divorce

What does two 40+ years old sisters (one married, one single), one mother (50+ years old) with daughter (26 years old) and me have to talk about for 1+ hours?

Venue: Woman's locker room in the gym club.

Three aunties lecturing the 2 of us (young gals) regarding guys -> bf -> eventually husband. Oh, and one of the auntie ask me, "You 22 years old ar?" =_="

In summary:

During singlehood/courtship --> Keep eyes open BIG BIG or WIDE WIDE, to make sure you spot a right guy.

After marriage --> Keep one eye open, one eye close of your hubby's doings, complaints, money spendings, outings etc.

After few years down the marriage road --> Can start having both eyes close....

End of story.

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Calv wrote an interesting post regarding contentment. I agree mostly with what he have to say and kudos for him to write such a great post.

However, my view towards the reasons for less divorce rate in our previous generations compared to current generations differs slightly. No doubt divorce rate in our era is much higher and definitely not being content is one of the reason. However, in our previous generations, many marriage maybe just an empty shell or a piece of signed paper without love.

Verdict: They just do not divorce or sign the divorce paper like what current generations would do if it is end of the road of marriage.

For example:
Do you know how many women suffered violence from the husband but stayed in the relationship due to the dependency towards the husband because of the sake of MONEY and CHILDREN. Divorce is not an option for these kind of women.

In this era, most women our generation is independent, career-minded, financial independent, smart, sophisticated and etc. Very few choose to stay at home and become a housewife (siu nai nai or women born in a rich family is a different case, coz money is not an issue).

If both husband and wife is working, what makes the right for the man to ask a woman to quit a job and stay at home and become a housewife? Even worse would it be if both husband and wife is working, but after work, the husband ask the wife to do the house chores, because it is a WOMAN THING.

This is a transition period from a MAN'S WORLD to a EQUAL WORLD (which is still very much in the infancy stage). I wonder in the future will one day it becomes a WOMAN'S WORLD?

Being said that, contentment is really an important element in life, not only in a relationship. Sometimes we just got to LEARN how to appreciate what we have. Keep in mind though, do not make yourself suffer if things are just not right for you. Communication is another keep point in relationship. Err... good one of coz. I don't think one partner keep shouting to another partner is considered communication. Wukakaka....