The things man should understand – Security

I was reading this Chinese article from a magazine which I think is very interesting. Therefore, I decided to translate it.

According to the article, security is the standard of measurement of love. Apparently, the view of security differs between man and woman. A woman’s definition of security does not arise from a man’s well-built body, solid wealth or etc, but the confidence a guy provided for a woman to make them rely the rest of their life towards this man.

A woman’s security derives from a man’s love, and a woman’s love provides security to a man. Therefore, in related to the topic of security, the main source is from man, but woman holds the power to control it.

If you want to build a solid foundation in her heart, whether you can provide security to her is the winning point.

1. RESPECT HER DECISION

Do not interfere with her decision all the time, instead encourage her to develop her strengths, because everyone is the same, if you are doing something you dislike, you will lack motivation and passion. What you believe is good, doesn’t mean she will think is suitable for her. An ideal new century guy should respect all women, even if it is a person you just met.

2. USE BODY TO PROVIDE HER WARMTH

Why does a woman like their hand to be hold by a man? This is because the warmth from the palm of a man, makes a woman feels real. The desire for a person to be touched is the same for both man and woman. The palm, the warmth of a hug, normally provides the deepest impression which can be remembered for a lifetime, far compared to a diamond. Normally when she thinks of you, she will remembers your hug, not the materials you provided for her, therefore, man please do not be stingy in providing your hugs and holding her hand tightly.

3. PROVIDE CARE AT SUITABLE TIMES

When a man shows care and his gentleness, I believe every woman will be very happy, but over-excessive care will make her feel repulse. When she is frustrated, just act as a role of rubbish bin that would do great. Sometimes what a woman needs, is just a person to talk to, not a final result. Also, try to remember the names of her friends she mentioned to you, when she face difficulties, you can provide the best suggestions.

4. MAKE HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS ADMIRE YOU

Elder people eyesight normally are very good, they can analyze a person’s good and bad. If you can win over her family and friends admiration, you have achieve success halfway. You must understand that woman are normally very easily influence by people around her, if there are people around her who admire you, in many ways you will gain a lot of help.

5. DO NOT BE STUBBORN IN WINNING

Even though most men want everything to be equal, but, woman needs to be “tam”, therefore please do not be so emotional, if it does not involve your principles; let the girls win first, when both of you calm down, only resolve to find a solution.

6. ATHELETIC GUYS ARE NORMALLY MORE WELCOME

For guys who have a hobby in sports, are easier to release stress, you also make a woman feel you are with a man who is passionate, makes her feel confidence towards life. I believe, there’s not a woman who likes to live with a man who drinks alcohol and smoking everyday to distress.

7. MAKE HER FEELS TALKING HER HEART CONTENTS TO YOU IS SAFE

If a woman is willing to honestly and sincerely to communicate with you, that indicates you have a very special and solid position in her heart. But it is best if you know when to talk, and when to keep your mouth shut. Do not be afraid to express, you can share your feelings and thinking appropriately, this will makes her feel that you are at her side, in her heart she will feels more reliable towards you. You must ensure her that you will not be laughing at her because she is willing to express her inner thoughts to you.

8. BE CLEAR WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR GIRL-FRIENDS

Both man and woman, should have their own circles of friends, but guys who likes to play flirting games is definitely the pain in the axx for woman. If you are the type of guy who do not feel good in saying no or refuse other women, as an end result, you will expect sooner or later she will definitely reject you without mercy. You may regard it as insecurity or no trust, all in all, woman just wish their man can appear within their visible zone and listening zone. You can let her know the friends you are mixing with, but both of you can communicate beforehand, both of you can give each other space in the foundation of trust. At appropriate times, work on sweet talking, most of the time, woman falls for this.

Suddenly, I feel my translation skills have improved drastically and my Chinese is still going strong. However, forgive me if there are parts that sound weird. Sometimes it is hard to put Chinese words into English. I certainly believe that Mandarin is very powerful and more expressive.

Okay, I hope this post is EASIER TO DIGEST. I know my previous post is very “special”. Hehehe…..